are you a hypocrite...?

...well almost ,you see it depends on...

Published on October 7, 2004 By tina_ turner In Blogging

i'm not going to marry an indian guy...really if you ask me all indians are big time hypocrites.....considering the type of person i am i don't think i can tolerate another one of those mcp...who's mamas have always centered their world around them..wat with the " mere laal ...raaja beta "...kind of upbringing they had to grow up with big time egos....and another category is the kinds who on the face of it are the oh so cool dudes,..you actually think so there goes a metrosexual man ,his friendly gender indifferent attitude at first seems refreshing but then you realise he's got complexes of a different kind...like he's probably so in awe of the "outside world" that he forgets individuality never went out of fashion...
really if you ask me,theforeigners are probably much more cool in these matters...though thats another matter that most of them (...esp americans..) are way too screwed up...
okay so maybe i'll marry a NRI..

but honestly apart from all these hard known(butrarely said)facts of life...NRIsare obviously not going to fall in my lap...so from a practical point of view if i want any decent indian to give me a second thought i should ideally speaking (...or rather hypocritically speaking ...see this proves wat a true blue indian i am..) get a tag attached to my name...like nobody knows a BPHARM. graduate from jamia hamdard , but if i do an MBA say from a place like IIM ...everybody wud want a wife who plays in money..
see i'm not saying that this kind of thinking is wrong or one shud be ashamed of it ...because afterall even i myself wud anyday go for an IIT graduate than a DCE engineer ...but all i'm trying to say is that if you are a hypocrite (...courtesy the truly screwed up ethos of indian society...) you should be man enough to admit it so that you can rectify it...i mean you got to first identify the problem in order to do sumthing about it...
now coming back to my career ambitions...knowing the sort of hypocrite i am and plus also knowing the sort of individual i am...i would give ,MBA a try first and not go into research because i personally feel i wud enjoy marketing much more any day...but then that does not mean post graduation is completely ruled out ,i might do it after marriage,when i wud already have a well qualified indian in my kitty...
the reasonsfor doing a PHD wud be purely personal...intellectual satisfaction..(..though i honestly feel it has partly to do with the kind of atmosphere at home i was provided with,which i am proud of....so having a Dr. in front of my name wudn't be altogether so bad..) because otherwise it does not fetch you much in this material world...who cares whether ur doing MPHARM in boston or bombay unless the uni's got a rep...

Comments

http://stillkickingaround.redi

on Oct 09, 2004

Hi
got ur link from comments section of my blog.
Interesting reading. Atleast much better than what i write.

I havent read ur whole blog but only 2 recent posts and what i think is that u have quite a number of misconceptions about the whole NRI thing.

Firstly, all indians are not hypocrites as u think.
Than theres nothing wrong When a mother treats her son the way u mentioned. I dont think that has anything to do with inflated egos some ppl have.Its just an attitude problem. Its really great to have such a mother.

I, myself being a NRI, can say that there are lot of indians here abroad in US or Canada who are much more narrow-minded, orthodox and hypocrite than u can ever imagine in India. Beleive me. I have seen life at both ends and its not that glamarous as it seems from far away.

Marriage is much more than just marrying a rich guy. I know these material things do matter but just dont forget the big picture.

And about ur career. First of all, decide what u wanna do with ur life or where do u see urself in next 10 years and than stick to that track. Double minded approch wont get u anywhere.

I know i am giving you a unwelcomed lecture
So whatever u decide, i wish u best of luck.
http://stillkickingaround.rediffblogs.com/

Hey girl

on Oct 09, 2004

Hey,
Read your blog and it seems pretty cool..

Personally, Ive lived in both India and Canada.. and I'd say with whatever you do , follow your heart and try not to label indian guys as just NRIS or indian born.. They r a few nice ppl and if you see one nice one you really like.. it shouldnt matter where he is from:)
See ya,
Shelley

http://stillkickingaround.redi

on Oct 09, 2004

hey shell, u didnt tell me that u left ur comments too.

imajinit

on Oct 11, 2004

really if you ask me all indians are big time hypocrites

could you be anymore stereotypical? how can you lump all the people from one ethnic background into one group? what's worse? being a hypocrite? or stereotyping an entire culture of people?

randomreader

on Oct 13, 2004

I sure hope this whole thing about all-indians-being-hypocrites is a reaction to situation/situations.
I do understand that you have your reasons, but infering generalizations like this could obscure your
judgement. There is a very good chance that you will not be able to recognize a diamond in a heap.
Also generalization could also be percieved as the inablity to grasp finer points..... All the subjects
seem to appear identical.

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